I decided to keep our appointment. I felt ready to hear what Bayard had in store for me and was happy to know that there were only three challenges she wanted me to tackle lookinh the next month to help me make friends. Start there.
We met a handful of times over the years and she casually always invited looknig to them at a yoga class. I did exactly what Bayard advised and messaged her on Instagram.
Who are the people you sometimes see at the same parties and share mutual friends, but never have one-on-one conversations? I wrote each challenge down and devoted at least one week to following through on them.
Bayard was patient and listened to me vent. Those with social anxiety struggle because they are in their head and second guess themselves.
Most people, I thought, make friends hxng a strategy or game plan. I told her I almost canceled our session out of pure shame. She advised me to send that person a message on Instagram asking them to get coffee.
The budcy thing Bayard advised me to do was take inventory of people I know and who they know. All my friends are married with.
But before I did, I asked Bayard for advice on what to say.