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Lori Gottlieb Eventually, my wife found out about this, but aeeking still wants to work on our marriage. That, combined with the lack of intimacy in our relationship, makes me wonder if I would be happier with a divorce. I still love my wife, but I am just not in love with her. There is no more spark.

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Always seek the advice of your physician, mental-health professional, or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Nobody—not your wife, not a new partner, not your daughter—can fill that hole for you, even if it seems like your co-worker is doing so in the moment.

Experiencing such an intense mutual connection feels wonderful, and your task now is to understand the nature of it separatef.

If you were to leave now, you would be the single father of a young child and a newborn, with a girlfriend who may not have an interest in raising these children with you—changing diapers, waking up several times a night, spending time at baby birthday parties and the pediatrician and the park. This is especially important because, as you tell it, your earlier decision to get back together with your now-wife was influenced, at least in part, by the opinions of family and friends.

Communication issues can lead to a person feeling emotionally unavailable, and many people who feel that way come alive in the presence of a shiny new potential partner.

I still love my wife, but I am just mafried in love with her. Lori Gottlieb Eventually, my wife found out about this, but she still wants to work on our marriage. How open are you to her true self?

Dear Therapist is for informational purposes only, does not constitute medical advice, and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Only then will you be able sepadated make a decision not out of guilt or confusion or quiet desperation, but out of a grounded place of knowing. How much empathy do you have for her experience of the marriage and what her wants and needs are?

Another thing for you to consider as you go through this process is that no one else can tell you what to do. I feel much better when I am actually heard, but the resulting fights are frustrating because they are fruitless.

Moreover, if you two eventually have children together, you may find yourself five or 10 years from lqdy wondering how you ended seekjng in the same situation once again: content, but with decreased intimacy, increased tension, and a nagging sense that Mocha Almond Fudge is an even better flavor of ice cream than Rocky Road. So I am left wondering: Do I stay in a mediocre marriage for the kids, or do I leave for my own interest? That, combined with the lack of intimacy in our relationship, makes me wonder if I would be happier with a divorce.

There is no more spark. When I look down either matried, I can see only fear and regret. You say the spark is no longer in your marriage and on a positive note, you remember the sparkbut many parents entrenched in the day-to-day with infants or toddlers feel this way, and seek out, either in fantasy or reality, a welcome escape from the sometimes mundane, roommate-like existence that couples can fall into during this phase of life.